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The Four Loves is a 1960 book by C. S. Lewis which explores the nature of love from a Christian and philosophical perspective through thought experiments.[1] The book was based on a set of radio talks from 1958 which had been criticised in the U.S. at the time for their frankness about sex.
CS Lewis Clive Staples Lewis (1898 -1963) is one of my favorite authors of all time. He is a British writer and held academic positions in English literature at both Oxford University (Magdalen College, 1925–1954) and Cambridge University (Magdalene College, 1954–1963). Lewis wrote this book was based on a set of radio talks from 1958.

The four loves come from the Greek who use four words to describe what we use one for.

Storge: Affection Love

Phileo: Friendship Love

Eros: Romantic Love.

Agape: Divine Love.

Storge Love: [The frosting on the cake] Affection is the most humble of the loves. It is the love of enjoying someone or something. Storge is the joy in seeing Les Miseribles. Liking this play can be a sort of this love. Also for people, it can be the enjoyment of their company, whether they believe what we do or not. Ice-Cream, watching 24 the series, being with good friends, quality as Storge love. Now this kind of love is the jacket that clothes the other loves that we may enjoy them. But even in this innocence there is the danger of selfishness. Of hoarding something or someone to their pain, or to ours.

Phileo Love: [The punch on the side] Friendship is the least needed says Lewis of the loves. This is the least jealous of the loves. “Friendship arises out of mere companionship when two or more of the companions discover that they have in common some insight or interest or even taste which the others do not share and which, till that moment, each believed to be his own unique treasure or burden.”

This friendship is pointing somewhere, going somewhere, while Eros points the people at each other Phileo points them toward that certain goal.

Funny that Lewis also states that if a male and female of same interests and goals, who are not repulsive to each other and love no one else, will eventually grown into Eros love. There is no true “friendship,” for single males and singles female for Lewis, who get too close. But although he speaks of this love as the least needed, it seems the most enjoyed and the longest lasting of the earthy loves.

Eros Love: [My cake!] This is also the love that creates the hottest of fires in our emotions. It can be a wonderful light, or a scorching fire. Romantic or erotic love: Lewis calls this “being in love.” Now there is a difference in being in love and “falling in love.” You can control the former but not the later one. It is the love that is least thought about but most felt. It will be completely destroyed says Lewis as destroying the mountain view when you locate it in the retina or by asking too many questions! It is sexual and not. It seeks one and only one person. “The fact that she is a woman is far less important than the fact that she is herself.” This love does not aim at happiness, but on a particular person at all cost. “Better to be miserable with her than happy without her.” He writes:

“When the two people who thus discover that they are on the same secret road are of different sexes, the friendship which arises between them will very easily pass – may pass in the first half hour – into erotic love. Indeed, unless they are physically repulsive to each other or unless one or both already loves elsewhere, it is almost certain to do so sooner or later. And conversely, erotic love may lead to Friendship between the lovers. But this, so far from obliterating the distinction between the two loves, puts it in a clearer light. If one who was first, in the deep and full sense, your Friend, is then gradually or suddenly revealed as also your lover you will certainly not want to share the Beloved’s erotic love with any third. But you will have no jealousy at all about sharing the Friendship. Nothing so enriches an erotic love as the discovery that the Beloved can deeply, truly and spontaneously enter into Friendship with the Friends you already had; to feel that not only are we two united by erotic love but we three or four or five are all travelers on the same quest, have all a common vision.”

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